When I wake up each morning, there is a plan. Each day has its rhythm and choices, but along the way I developed a set of routines. Ever changing, depending all on me and what I want. Where I am in life is irrelevant, but somehow I’m supposed to know what I want out of tomorrow. A list of goals and objectives, a separate list of maybe’s and probably should not’s. A set of responsibilities that don’t necessarily make sense, or even make me happy.
Caught up in a time where needs and wants are no longer black and white. There is an entanglement. Somewhere along the way, the purpose of our being was lost.
Every morning I wake up and wonder what mine is.
A purpose, such a loaded and questionable thing. Words are only labels slapped on like price tags. Most of them make sense, but a decent amount make you wonder “am I understanding?” “Is this right?”
Well a great majority of purpose is within us all, much different and unique to its person. To put a finger on it would be impossible, but we all try now and again.
Two things dictate ones purpose: to first know what they are passionate about, and to take risks and actively put effort into their passions. The second thing is helping others. Not by request, but because fulfillment within is so much more rewarding when given away. Because passions bring us never ending supplies of happiness, and spreading joy with others is more rewarding than acting on ones passions alone and/or without giving away what you know has filled your cup and then some.
The more fulfillment, the better the life right? Happiness is everyone’s goal in one way or another. Enrichment, pleasures, achievements, good relationships – all mix together into an exceptionally decent life.
How to obtain all at once is the problem. And in a world full of distractions and responsibilities, one can often lose sight of what they really desire out of their own life.
How to stay focused?
Become habitual. Locate your passions and goals in life, and incorporate it into your daily life as if it were food itself. Passions can be money making and not, but the most important ones may be the ones that do not pay in dollar bills. Some of the most enriching experiences will be for the pure enjoyment of the experience.
Risks may involve money or time, effort or traveling. Whatever the cost, the pay off is what is important. Within the boundaries of reason, of course. For example, one must budget to afford certain expenditures, and all choices should be filtered through whether it be logical and/or timed correctly.
But no matter the risk or circumstance, right before taking the risk, one gets a feeling of “this is it.” And if the risk was worth it or more than worth it, then that feeling expands and fulfillment floods every sense – and those are the moments we live for.
I have found myself not taking risks for years. The result: an unsatisfying life, few friends, few hobbies, few goals. I have taken many spirals into the state of mind almost everyone has been in: hopelessness. For many, the feeling may only last a short while; but for some, the choices add up to a heaping disappointment. And it can become overwhelming. It can be uncomfortable, like feeling completely lost even though you are home in bed or the living room, or wherever.
It’s an emptiness that seeks fulfillment. And when given none for too long, it begins to seek immediate satisfaction. It asks for indulgence and instant gratification. It knows that it is empty, and it asks to be filled.
It took me a long while to pin point exactly what it wants. Feelings are confusing, and not at all direct; but the conclusion was simple, which was ironic since I had been searching for what feels like my whole life.
The answer is within the confines of love itself. To love everyone seems impossible, to love few is achievable, to love yourself is the battle; but to receive happiness and enrichment by taking risks for individual inner passions, is what will make loving so much easier.
I have discovered that, by filling that pit of emptiness with acts of goal-oriented personal passion, I can find true happiness and be ready for life’s ever-flowing current, no matter the circumstance. And the outcome is satisfaction.
“Happiness does not come from doing easy work but from the afterglow of satisfaction that comes after the achievement of a difficult task that demanded our best.” -Theodore Isaac Rubin
“The ultimate victory in competition is derived from the inner satisfaction of knowing that you have done your best and that you have gotten the most out of what you had to give.” -Howard Cosell
“Young people are threatened…by the evil use of advertising techniques that stimulate the natural inclination to avoid hard work by promising the immediate satisfaction of every desire.” -Pope John Paul II
“Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on around them. They stay focused on their past successes rather than their past failures, and on the next action steps they need to take to get them closer to the fulfillment of their goals rather than all the other distractions that life presents to them.” -Jack Canfield
“If you so choose, even the unexpected setbacks can bring new and positive possibilities. If you so choose, you can find value and fulfillment in every circumstance.” -Ralph Marston
“An attitude to life which seeks fulfillment in the single-minded pursuit of wealth – in short, materialism – does not fit into this world, because it contains within itself no limiting principle, while the environment in which it is placed is strictly limited.” -E. F. Schumacher
“I have brought myself, by long meditation, to the conviction that a human being with a settled purpose must accomplish it, and that nothing can resist a will which will stake even existence upon its fulfillment.” -Benjamin Disraeli